We’ve all been there. You set a goal, feel unstoppable, and then – out of nowhere – you find yourself procrastinating, overthinking, or slipping back into patterns you swore you left behind. That’s the sneaky grip of self-sabotage.
The good news? Self-sabotage isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that your old survival patterns are still running the show. And once you see them for what they are, you can break free.
Why We Self-Sabotage
At its core, self-sabotage is protection. Your subconscious is wired to keep you safe, even if that means clinging to habits that no longer serve you. Fear of failure, fear of success, or simply the comfort of the familiar can trigger behaviors that hold you back.
Think:
• Talking yourself out of opportunities because you’re “not ready.”
• Comfort eating or endless scrolling instead of facing discomfort.
• Perfecting, delaying, or overplanning until the moment has passed.
Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
How to Break the Cycle
Awareness is everything
The moment you notice the pattern, you’ve taken back power.
Ask: What am I avoiding right now?
Rewrite the narrative
Instead of “I always mess this up,” try: “I’m learning how to show up differently this time.” Words matter.
Start small – Big leaps can trigger resistance
Focus on micro-actions that build trust with yourself. Send the email. Take the walk. Write the first page.
Embrace imperfection because progress is messy
Celebrate the doing, not just the outcome.
Anchor in support
Accountability partners, journaling, therapy, or coaching can help you stay aligned when old habits resurface.
The Takeaway
Self-sabotage doesn’t define you. It’s just a story your old self learned to tell. The moment you choose awareness, compassion and new action, you begin rewriting that story.
Because the truth is, the most powerful thing you can do is stop standing in your own way and finally step into the life you know you’re meant to create.
Much love always,
LHW x
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